by Kerri Summers | Dec 14, 2020 | Advent
We are wired to notice the negative because it is crucial to our survival but it means that as parents (or colleagues or bosses) we are alerted to the behaviour we don’t want and often overlook what is going well. If we give attention to the negative, children will...
by Kerri Summers | Dec 10, 2020 | Advent
Often when coaching working parents we hear that performance reviews are consistently good but peers are being promoted and they are not. This can be because, with the extra demands of parenthood, they do not have the bandwidth to do more than meet the daily demands...
by Kerri Summers | Dec 9, 2020 | Advent
The behaviour of others – children, peers, bosses – can trigger us to enter a defensive mode projecting righteous indignation or poor me victimhood. It also makes us less able to respond in a smart way. Can you press the pause button? Recognise the unpleasant...
by Kerri Summers | Dec 7, 2020 | Advent
“The fact is: almost everything is funny. You just have to have a way of looking at it”- Jerry Seinfeld This philosophy is one that serves working parents well. We can so easily get trapped in the sad story, the this is hard story, the when will this get better story....
by Kerri Summers | Dec 4, 2020 | Advent
It is the ability to increase the distance between ourselves and the situation so that we can change the way we approach and think about it. A good distancing question to ask yourself is what will I think of this in a month or a year from now? It helps us to notice...
