Research shows that those people who find the courage to have difficult conversations have more positive relationships and are healthier when measured by the strength of their immune systems.

You can understand why. Avoiding difficult conversations won’t make them go away. When we avoid them, for whatever reason, perhaps we are worried about the fallout or uncomfortable about being perceived negatively, they start to fester. The lack of resolution drain us of energy and creates stress and heightened emotions.

The hard bit is acknowledging what you are not addressing and why. Ask yourself what difficult conversation am I not having at work, with my kids, my childminder, my partner, my ex partner and why am I avoiding it. Then “go through it”.

*These words were produced for our Advent Calendar in December 2020.