by Kerri Summers | Dec 14, 2020 | Advent
We are wired to notice the negative because it is crucial to our survival but it means that as parents (or colleagues or bosses) we are alerted to the behaviour we don’t want and often overlook what is going well. If we give attention to the negative, children will...
by Sharon Charlton-Thomson | Dec 14, 2020 | Advent
One of the most uplifting and freeing things to do is to create a ‘to stop’ list. It requires us to reflect on how we fill our life and which jobs, obligations and rituals are no longer of value or could be passed on to someone else. This activity is very powerful...
by Kerri Summers | Dec 10, 2020 | Advent
Often when coaching working parents we hear that performance reviews are consistently good but peers are being promoted and they are not. This can be because, with the extra demands of parenthood, they do not have the bandwidth to do more than meet the daily demands...
by Sharon Charlton-Thomson | Dec 9, 2020 | Advent
Suppose you were to come upon someone in the woods working feverishly to sore down a tree. “What are you doing?” you ask. “Can’t you see?” comes the impatient reply. “I’m sawing down this tree” “You look exhausted,” you exclaim. “How long have you been at...
by Kerri Summers | Dec 9, 2020 | Advent
The behaviour of others – children, peers, bosses – can trigger us to enter a defensive mode projecting righteous indignation or poor me victimhood. It also makes us less able to respond in a smart way. Can you press the pause button? Recognise the unpleasant...
