With work life balance we assume that, like a playground seesaw, when one is high the other is low. If you are smashing it at work, there is a price to pay at home. If you are making fairy cakes with your 7 year old on a weekday afternoon your work will suffer.

Instead explore what a good working parent means to you? Discuss this with a partner or a friend or your kids? Write it down. Let this be your guide about where you put your time and energy rather than relying on the assumptions you might be carrying about what a good working parent looks like.

Then think flexibility rather than balance. How can I gain more control over where and when I work? How can I make this explicit to my work and my family so that I can operate this way without feeling guilt or worry?

*These words were produced for our Advent Calendar in December 2020.